Is it just me, or "my bf is sexy" is inversely proportional to "my bf is a good partner". My first boyfriend was good in bed, but he was kind of an asshole, and I couldn't put up with that long-term. My second boyfriend wouldn't even get hard around me, but he was actually a very nice person. My third boyfriend was a complete failure in all dimensions, except sexually - it was sexual fantasy coming true. I shit you not, there's "sex" and there's "sex with him", two completely different experiences.I'm thinking of completely giving up on the sexual attractiveness factor, and solely focusing on finding someone who matches my lifestyle.