Ever since my ex left me I've started having doubts about being able to be a good boyfriend, I gave it my all he still blamed me. I think this is how people with BPD end up damaging you the hardest. Gaslighting you into thinking you were the problem. But somehow I don't believe that still. If anyone else would like, I'd like to conversate about past partners with bpd, or even family members and how they've affected your life and how you cope with them.